How to Talk to Your Child About Being Bullied at School

Children, Teens & Adolescents

If your child comes home from school and tells you they were bullied, it’s important to stay calm and listen to what they have to say. It can be difficult to know what to say or do in this situation, but it’s important to support your child. 

Here are some tips on how to talk to your child about being bullied at school.

Start By Asking Your Child How They’re Feeling & If They Want to Talk About What Happened

It’s never easy to learn that your child is being bullied at school, but the best way to handle the situation is to listen to what they have to say and create an environment where they feel safe opening up. Start by simply asking your child how they’re feeling and if they want to talk about what has happened. 

It may be difficult for them to open up at first, so it’s important to demonstrate understanding and patience as you make time for them. 

Create a space that is free from judgment and distraction, where you can focus on listening and talking through their experiences in a compassionate way.

Listen Without Judgment & Try to Understand What They’re Going Through


When your child comes to you with stories of bullying or difficult behavior from other children at school, it’s important to be patient and listen without judgment. While it might be instinctual to get angry or overwhelmed with emotion in response, this is not the way to give your child the support they need.

Show them that you care and understand by listening to their stories and validating their feelings. Doing so will demonstrate that your child can trust you and confide in you when they are feeling vulnerable or scared.


Reassure Them That It’s Not Their Fault & That You’re There For Them


Being the victim of bullying is a painful experience and can make your child feel helpless and overwhelmed. By reassuring them that it is not their fault, you can help them realize that they are not to blame for what is happening.

Knowing that their loved ones are there for them during this difficult time will help give them strength and courage to face the challenges ahead. Let your children know that you are there to support and comfort them in any way you can, offering a safe haven from the difficulties and distress caused by being bullied.

Doing so will encourage your children to open up about their experiences, as well as giving them hope for a better tomorrow.


Help Them Come Up With a Plan to Deal With the Bullying, Whether It’s Talking to a Teacher or Avoiding the Bully Altogether


It can be difficult to come up with a plan to effectively deal with bullying in school, but it’s essential to support your child in navigating the situation. It’s important to discuss the different strategies available so that your child can make an informed decision about which option works best for them.

Some children might find it beneficial to immediately tell a teacher or trusted adult as soon as possible, while others could benefit from avoiding the perpetrator of the bullying and removing themselves from the situation.

Helping them build their own plan of action will empower your child and give them the confidence they need to handle any challenges that arise.


Check In With Them Regularly to See How They’re Doing & Offer Your Support


Parents play an important role in helping their children process being bullied at school. It’s important to get a sense of how your child is feeling on a regular basis so you can be there for them and offer support if needed.

Checking in with them about what’s going on with school and how they’re doing emotionally is essential. Doing this regularly will also make your child feel comfortable sharing any challenges they may be experiencing, as well as establishing trust that you are open to discussing difficult topics.

Taking the time to listen and provide feedback can help to make sure your child feels supported when dealing with the impacts of bullying.


No child deserves to be bullied, and it’s important to be there for your child if they come to you with a problem like this. By showing them support and helping them develop a plan to deal with the bullying, you can help ease their anxiety and make sure they know that they’re not alone.

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